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Long Live Grandmothers

Even in the throes of a hot flash, I've never really given much thought to the evolutionary purpose of menopause, but it seems that scientists are as mystified by it as they have been about the female orgasm.[1]I didn't know this, but other than humans, two species of whale are the only other animals whose females undergo menopause. Weird, right? A recent study [2] at UC Berkeley reinforces a theory that the key to menopause lies with grandmothers. Historically, childbirth was the number one killer of women. By undergoing menopause, older women were spared that particular cause of death, but were also around to help their daughters with childbirth and newborn childcare, and without producing more children of their own to compete for food and resources. Not only were their daughters more likely to live, but also their grandchildren, which provided a double whammy of insurance that their genes would be passed down to future generations.  

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Topics: menopause, family, grandmothers

Checking in with HRT

 

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Topics: aging, menopause

How Do You Know You’re in Menopause?

 

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Topics: aging, Mind & Body, menopause

Feel Great Your Way

Because I am premenopausal and prone to mood swings and their accompanying crises, this morning I was feeling bitterly angry about the increased time I have to put into my beauty routine in order to look presentable these days. The older I get, the more time I spend on makeup, the tidier my hair needs to be, and the neater my wardrobe. Twenty years ago I could walk out the door with a bedhead and wrinkled dress and it just looked like personal style. Now it looks like deranged older lady.

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Topics: sex, Mind & Body, mindfulness, beauty, lifestyle, heatlh

Some Thoughts on Kissing

As noted here over time, my husband and I are putting more effort into our sex life now that our kids are relatively self-sufficient and let us sleep a lot more than they used to. (Well, now we're up worrying about where they are when they miss their curfews, but at least we can sleep in on weekends to make up for it!) We're doing a pretty good job of giving each other extra attention in the bedroom and with trying to ramp up the romance a bit during the day, but a thing we still need to work on, I think, is kissing.

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Topics: better marriage, couples, improving your marriage, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark, intimacy

Menopausal Magic Bullet?

 

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Topics: aging, menopause, health, exercisce

“Just Say No” Isn’t The Sex Ed Your Child Needs

In the September issue of the Journal of Adolescent Health, there is a position paper from the Society for Adolescent Health and Medicine on Abstinence-Only-Until Marriage (AOUM) programs that should get every parent thinking about what kind of sex education their kids are receiving in school. Unfortunately, the intention of waiting until marriage to have sex often fails. With the age of marriage rising in the US, most people have sex for the first time as an adolescent or young adult. In fact, research demonstrates that AOUM programs don't delay the first time a young person has sex. In many communities across the US, abstinence-only programs have replaced more comprehensive ones and this is problematic, as we understand that AOUM programs have the following impact[1]:

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Topics: communication, Sex Talk, safe sex, family, education

Let’s Talk About Sex

 I grew up in a buttoned-up New England family, where sex was not only not talked about, it was not acknowledged as a fact of life. I learned everything I needed to know about birds, bees and menstruation from a handful of knowledgeable friends and Judy Blume. It's taken some time, but as an adult, I've become more and more comfortable with discussing sex with both my friends and my partner, since my confidence and shamelessness seem to grow in tandem.

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Topics: sex, relationship, menopause, Sex Talk, marriage, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark

Feeling Good in All the Ways

I keep thinking and talking and writing lately about how much more confident and comfortable in my skin I am than I was 20 years ago. As a 40-something woman with a history of self-doubt and mild social anxiety, I am proud and happy that this is the case. Gone are the days when I'd freak out about my outfits or make trendy hair choices that did not at all suit me - I finally know what I like and don't care much what anyone thinks about it. Progress!

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Topics: couples, Mind & Body, Sex & Relationships, beauty

Happy Home Hacks: 8 Marriage Tips For The First 9 Months

The time just after marriage is so exciting. You're embarking on your new life together and the horizon looks bright. The memories of your special day are still fresh, and you're newly back from honeymoon. There might even still be wedding gifts to unwrap.

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Topics: communication, improving your marriage, marriage
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