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Long Live Grandmothers

Even in the throes of a hot flash, I've never really given much thought to the evolutionary purpose of menopause, but it seems that scientists are as mystified by it as they have been about the female orgasm.[1]I didn't know this, but other than humans, two species of whale are the only other animals whose females undergo menopause. Weird, right? A recent study [2] at UC Berkeley reinforces a theory that the key to menopause lies with grandmothers. Historically, childbirth was the number one killer of women. By undergoing menopause, older women were spared that particular cause of death, but were also around to help their daughters with childbirth and newborn childcare, and without producing more children of their own to compete for food and resources. Not only were their daughters more likely to live, but also their grandchildren, which provided a double whammy of insurance that their genes would be passed down to future generations.  

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Topics: menopause, family, grandmothers

Checking in with HRT

 

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Topics: aging, menopause

How Do You Know You’re in Menopause?

 

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Topics: aging, Mind & Body, menopause

Feel Great Your Way

Because I am premenopausal and prone to mood swings and their accompanying crises, this morning I was feeling bitterly angry about the increased time I have to put into my beauty routine in order to look presentable these days. The older I get, the more time I spend on makeup, the tidier my hair needs to be, and the neater my wardrobe. Twenty years ago I could walk out the door with a bedhead and wrinkled dress and it just looked like personal style. Now it looks like deranged older lady.

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Topics: sex, Mind & Body, mindfulness, beauty, lifestyle, heatlh

Some Thoughts on Kissing

As noted here over time, my husband and I are putting more effort into our sex life now that our kids are relatively self-sufficient and let us sleep a lot more than they used to. (Well, now we're up worrying about where they are when they miss their curfews, but at least we can sleep in on weekends to make up for it!) We're doing a pretty good job of giving each other extra attention in the bedroom and with trying to ramp up the romance a bit during the day, but a thing we still need to work on, I think, is kissing.

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Topics: better marriage, couples, improving your marriage, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark, intimacy

Menopausal Magic Bullet?

 

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Topics: aging, menopause, health, exercisce

Let’s Talk About Sex

 I grew up in a buttoned-up New England family, where sex was not only not talked about, it was not acknowledged as a fact of life. I learned everything I needed to know about birds, bees and menstruation from a handful of knowledgeable friends and Judy Blume. It's taken some time, but as an adult, I've become more and more comfortable with discussing sex with both my friends and my partner, since my confidence and shamelessness seem to grow in tandem.

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Topics: sex, relationship, menopause, Sex Talk, marriage, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark

Feeling Good in All the Ways

I keep thinking and talking and writing lately about how much more confident and comfortable in my skin I am than I was 20 years ago. As a 40-something woman with a history of self-doubt and mild social anxiety, I am proud and happy that this is the case. Gone are the days when I'd freak out about my outfits or make trendy hair choices that did not at all suit me - I finally know what I like and don't care much what anyone thinks about it. Progress!

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Topics: couples, Mind & Body, Sex & Relationships, beauty

Postpartum sex

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Topics: sex, couples, Mind & Body, postpartum, Sex & Relationships, desire

Better Sex: It Is All in Your Head

When I was younger there were few things more annoying to me than being told something I was suffering with was "all in my head".  Whether I was in pain or beleaguered with self-doubt, my problems were very real to me, and being told they were imaginary or within my control was maddening. As I age, however, I realize how much of my own experience really is within my control, and a lot of it has to do with the dissipation of that very self-doubt I was once afflicted with. Given the age-related changes to my body I'm now experiencing and that my younger self dreaded, I'm surprised to say this positive self-determination extends to sex.

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Topics: sex, better marriage, couples, aging, Mind & Body, Sex Talk, Sex & Relationships
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