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Some Thoughts on Kissing

As noted here over time, my husband and I are putting more effort into our sex life now that our kids are relatively self-sufficient and let us sleep a lot more than they used to. (Well, now we're up worrying about where they are when they miss their curfews, but at least we can sleep in on weekends to make up for it!) We're doing a pretty good job of giving each other extra attention in the bedroom and with trying to ramp up the romance a bit during the day, but a thing we still need to work on, I think, is kissing.

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Topics: better marriage, couples, improving your marriage, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark, intimacy

Menopausal Magic Bullet?

 

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Topics: aging, menopause, health, exercisce

Let’s Talk About Sex

 I grew up in a buttoned-up New England family, where sex was not only not talked about, it was not acknowledged as a fact of life. I learned everything I needed to know about birds, bees and menstruation from a handful of knowledgeable friends and Judy Blume. It's taken some time, but as an adult, I've become more and more comfortable with discussing sex with both my friends and my partner, since my confidence and shamelessness seem to grow in tandem.

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Topics: sex, relationship, menopause, Sex Talk, marriage, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark

Feeling Good in All the Ways

I keep thinking and talking and writing lately about how much more confident and comfortable in my skin I am than I was 20 years ago. As a 40-something woman with a history of self-doubt and mild social anxiety, I am proud and happy that this is the case. Gone are the days when I'd freak out about my outfits or make trendy hair choices that did not at all suit me - I finally know what I like and don't care much what anyone thinks about it. Progress!

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Topics: couples, Mind & Body, Sex & Relationships, beauty

Postpartum sex

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Topics: sex, couples, Mind & Body, postpartum, Sex & Relationships, desire

Better Sex: It Is All in Your Head

When I was younger there were few things more annoying to me than being told something I was suffering with was "all in my head".  Whether I was in pain or beleaguered with self-doubt, my problems were very real to me, and being told they were imaginary or within my control was maddening. As I age, however, I realize how much of my own experience really is within my control, and a lot of it has to do with the dissipation of that very self-doubt I was once afflicted with. Given the age-related changes to my body I'm now experiencing and that my younger self dreaded, I'm surprised to say this positive self-determination extends to sex.

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Topics: sex, better marriage, couples, aging, Mind & Body, Sex Talk, Sex & Relationships

No More Denial!

 

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Topics: sex, communication, couples, aging, Mind & Body, Sex Talk, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark, desire, intimacy

5 Ways to Work on Your Libido

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Topics: sex, arousal, better marriage, couples, aging, Mind & Body, libido, Sex Talk, Sex & Relationships, Maintaining the Spark, desire

Showing up for Yourself: Accessing Your own Desire

When was the last time you took a vacation? Yes, a vacation! Remember those? When you had time to read and swim, maybe take in a little sun, explore, have long dinners with a few too many glasses of wine...

How did you feel? Relaxed? Thought so!

It's interesting to notice how much our desire increases when we are on vacation. Be it the salty air or a crackling wood fire or the fact you actually have time to sit down and enjoy some breathing room, holidays are a great indicator that it is possible to feel that way.

And then we come home to our regular lives. 

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Topics: Mind & Body, health, mindfulness, desire

10 Exercises to Ground Yourself in the Present

Our lives are busier than ever. With technology everywhere we go, it's easy to be constantly multitasking—reading documents on your tablet while you wait to pick up the kids from carpool, or sending emails from your smartphone while you jog on the treadmill. While being constantly connected is convenient, it has its downsides. Leading consistently busy lives is not only stressful, but it removes you from the present moment.

One helpful way to experience and enjoy more of your life is by practicing mindfulness. Not sure how to start being mindful? A great way is to practice. The following 10 exercises can help you ground yourself in the present and make your life both more manageable and more gratifying.

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Topics: Mind & Body, health, mindfulness, stress
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