When I was a new mom, I dreaded the first time that my daughter said she hated me. I was sure it would break my heart and strip all of my maternal confidence away. Inevitably, it happened. She was coloring on a wall (as young kids do) and I told her to stop. In her little 4-year-old voice, she looked me dead in the eye and said it: I hate you.
“Forty is the new thirty,” they say. “Fifty is the new forty.” We hear this all the time, but what does it even mean? All we know is that we’ve found our forties and fifties to be a confusing time for ourselves and a lot of other women we know and meet.
So often we compare ourselves to our youthful incarnations—lamenting that our faces and bodies no longer look as they did when we were 25. But while we wish we still looked 25, there’s no way we’d want to go back and be that age. We are now much more confident in who we are and what we still want to become than we were back then, and we would not trade this self-knowledge for all the smooth, dewy skin in the world. So, we are determined to reset our self-images to our actual ages and let go of all the youth envy that’s been weighing us down.
For a few years menopausal women had what we thought was a magic bullet in the form of estrogen therapy, and then complications cropped up. Under the supervision of a doctor, estrogen therapy is still available for certain women, but only for a limited period of time.
Fortunately, our knowledge about other remedies for menopause symptoms is growing. Whether you’re suffering from hot flashes, fatigue, insomnia or mood swings, there are non-medical ways to treat your symptoms.
Who doesn’t love a good story about a medical breakthrough, especially one that might benefit us personally? Potential cures for cancer, possible environmental links to Alzheimer’s, new vaccines for formerly incurable diseases…we love them all. But nothing perks up our ears like a lead on relieving menopause symptoms. In particular, we’re always looking for that magic-bullet cure for hot flashes. No one’s found it yet, but when they do, trust us—we’ll waste no time in letting you know.