“Forty is the new thirty,” they say. “Fifty is the new forty.” We hear this all the time, but what does it even mean? All we know is that we’ve found our forties and fifties to be a confusing time for ourselves and a lot of other women we know and meet.
So often we compare ourselves to our youthful incarnations—lamenting that our faces and bodies no longer look as they did when we were 25. But while we wish we still looked 25, there’s no way we’d want to go back and be that age. We are now much more confident in who we are and what we still want to become than we were back then, and we would not trade this self-knowledge for all the smooth, dewy skin in the world. So, we are determined to reset our self-images to our actual ages and let go of all the youth envy that’s been weighing us down.